A great way to show love is to give your time for someone else. Time is such a precious commodity, that its value cannot be measured.
I have yet to find a reader that doesn’t agree with that sentiment. Nevertheless, this is the Love in Action post that seems to be the most controversial.
Love in Action Day 5
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, involves showing your love in a manner that can be as simple or complex as you choose.
Give your time to serve your husband.
What does this mean exactly?
It could mean any number of things. It depends, actually, on your husband. Primarily, you want to show with actions that you are thinking of him and that he is a priority in your life. To get your wheels turning, here are a few ideas.
- Get up and make coffee for your working man before he leaves to go to the office. I know it may be hard to get up before you need to, but it’s probably hard for him to leave a cozy bed to go to work and support his family some days as well.
- Make it a priority to maintain some aspect of the home that is important to him, such as a tidy family room or a clean van.
- Get a handle on his laundry so he always has a full sock drawer, his favorite jeans, an ironed work shirt, a clean bath towel, or whatever he needs.
- Be sure his favorite relaxing spot is never filled with a pile of unfolded laundry or mail.
- Pack him a lunch so he doesn’t have to do it himself, and put a sweet note in to show you are thinking of him.
- Assess your procrastination list and put his needs at the top — fix a button, schedule an appointment, plan a surprise. Just do it.
- Look for something on his to-do list that you can take over to give him a break, such as the filing, a trip to the post office, or paying bills.
- Fill his truck with gas and tidy it up.
- Replace that infernally empty toilet paper roll.
You get the idea.
Whatever you do, do it with love.
No, I am not even remotely implying that you are a hired servant; neither is he your Mr. Moneybags. In marrying each other, you have each chosen to serve the other in love throughout your lives. Even if you both work, there are simple ways you can show your commitment to him.
I know that this sounds very 1950s Cleaveresque. But it works! Love in action works. Loving service works. Mutually serving one another works! Battling over roles, pointing fingers, and whining–they don’t work so well.
Perform your loving service with joy, and with no thought of receiving anything in return (although this may rub off on him). You may surprise yourself to discover how fun it can be to think of different ways to show your hero how much you truly care.
Don’t forget to keep it going for the rest of the Love in Action weeks, or the rest of your marriage.
Dear children, let us not love with words or speech
but with actions and in truth.
~I John 3:18