Today’s loving action is very powerful. Am I getting repetitive? Yes, I am, because every single loving action you ever perform has an impact whose depth cannot be measured.
Hug and Kiss Your Children
We all love to hold our babies and toddlers. We love to kiss their soft cheeks and bury our faces in their hair. We love to hold them in our laps and rest their heads on our shoulders. We get our “snuggle fix” from our little ones.
But what about our older children? Our 5-year-olds, our 10-year-olds, our teens?
Where do they get their snuggle fix? At what age do they suddenly stop needing the comfort of a mother’s hug, the sitting close, the head on the shoulder?
They don’t stop needing it.
Intentionally focus on taking the time to connect physically with each child each day. A hug. A kiss. A pat on the back. A pat on the head. A playful shoulder punch, tickle, or poke.
Sit close together. Put your arms around your children. Pull someone onto your lap, even if she is almost as tall as you. Hold hands. Set up a Mommy toll booth — nobody can pass without paying one hug . . . or a substantial chunk of change.
Scratch your son’s back. Brush and play with your daughter’s hair. Rub their feet when you’re sitting on the couch together. I know, their feet aren’t cute and tiny and kissable like they used to be. Do it anyway! Your feet probably get pretty skanky, too, and you’d still like your hubby to massage away the day’s foot weariness.
If you need to, count how many times you’ve hugged each child until you’ve made it a habit. I told my children that a mommy needs three hugs a day per child to keep her batteries charged. Now they do the counting. Nobody wants Mama to hit empty!
Not sure how to start?
Look around you and find the child who, at this moment, is the least lovable — cranky, dirty, scowling, bickering. Grab that child and hug as if his life depended on it. It would be a great time to practice yesterday’s smile as well. Always show affection to the child who least deserves it — that’s grace.
Eventually all this crazy lovin’ will become a habit, and those terrific kids of yours will still be hugging and kissing on Mama when you’re 92!
Whatever you do, make it fun and keep it natural. Nothing’s worse than forced affection from someone who should love you wholly and unconditionally. Well, there might be something worse, like, I don’t know, a worldwide chocolate shortage. Hmmm. Nope. Not even that.
Always kiss your children goodnight,
even if they’re already asleep.
How do you connect with your older children?
Today’s Love in Action is linked up to the Homemaking Link-up.